Connie Reguli 8-29-21

The legislators work hard to set a list of best interest factors in child custody cases and yet it really boils down to this list prepared by an erased mom. 👇

The Erased Mother

She was…

The one who bathed the babies.
The one who dressed the babies.
The one who combed their hair.
The one who fed them.
The one who read to them.
The one who taught them how to brush their teeth.
The one who sounded out words.
The one who taught them how to point.
The one who taught them how to play.
The one who comforted them when they were sick.
The one who called to make doctor appointments.
The one who talked to the doctor.
The one who scheduled therapy appointments
The one who followed OT direction.
The one who followed PT direction.
The one who followed SLP direction.
The one who rocked the baby to sleep gently.
The one who woke up most nights to check on her sleeping baby.
The one who gave medicine when her baby needed it.
The one who bottlefed or breastfed.
The one who bought diapers, wipes, clothes.
The one who asked for Community Resources.
The one who participated in them for her baby.
The one who found solutions when her three year old was diagnosed with Autism.
The one who asks important questions because she cares.
The one who thinks of a plan to get her children home while everyone is figuring out how to load their pockets off of a families separation.
The one who cares about her children’s education.
The one who cares about her children’s mental health
The one who cares about her children’s emotional health.
The one who cares about her children’s vision.
The one who cares about her children’s dental care.
The one who cares about her teen entering puberty.
The one who cares about her teen-ager going to prom.
The one who cares about her teen-ager growing up to be an honest person.
The one who teaches her teen-ager life skills.
The one who helps her teen-ager get ready for the workforce.
The one who helps her teen-ager get into the best colleges.
The one who cares about her teenager graduating high school.

Rarely does a father do this.
If he does, it’s without the mother of his children but with a female mother figure for the child or teen.

This is what CYFD, ACB, DHHS, DCFS, DFACS, CPS, does yearly to Families.

Share it if you too have been erased from your child or teen’s life and have to relive the trauma to prove all you did to get them back hoping they see your efforts and see this intentionally broken system for what it is. Destruction of Children and Families.

We have must to do. Thank you for sharing Monica.